The first few pages of the book is a summary of the key points in Don Ruiz's The Four Agreements. TL;DR: We are first domesticated by the world the moment we are born ("we live in a dream"). Then, with enough domestication, we are eventually able to self-domesticate. How, why, and who to love is among the things we are domesticated in. Because of this, we learn and self-reinforce unhealthy notions of "love".
I know I'm supposed to experience grand realizations from this book. I know I'm missing something. So, I'll re-read this book, eventually. Perhaps, I read too fast without giving myself the proper introspection to appreciate and the evaluate Ruiz's words.
I also believe I'm unwilling to give the book a higher personal score because I am not willing to act on the lessons detailed in the book. I'm not prepared to, say, be more intentional with self love. Anyhow, without getting too personal, here are some thoughts:
Some highlights that gave me pause given certain events in my personal life
- You can't control your life and the events that will happen to you. You can control your reaction to these events. What you do, think, feel in reaction is your responsibility.
- If love is to be unconditional, then to love is to forgive. Not only forgive others, but ourselves. We must forgive ourselves everything we have done wrong. We live in the present, in today. We do not live in the last.
- "Life is nothing but a dream, and if you create your life with love, your dream becomes a masterpiece of art."
- "People are starving for love, not knowing their heart is a magical kitchen. Open your heart. Open your magical kitchen and refuse to walk around the world begging for love. In your heart is all the love you need. Your heart can create any amount of love, not just for yourself, but for the whole world."